My mom adventures in Fort Collins


Can’t we just all put this to bed already?
March 9, 2011, 9:54 pm
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So sorry for the awful pun, but I had to.
Mayim Bialik (aka Blossom) wrote an article that heralds the joy of bedsharing.

Seriously, we get it. You do what you do because your kids need it, and it works for you as a family. Meanwhile, the rest of us can also do the same–maybe we share a bed, a futon, a sleeping bag, or maybe we sleep on opposite wings of our 7,000 sq. ft. estate from our children. Really, can we all stop slapping high fives just because someone affirms our parenting choices? Do you really need that?

I do occasionally sleep with my kids. What does that have to do with anything? I am no more confident in my choice than I was before I read this article, because, quite honestly, Mayim’s choices about her kids and her family don’t make a difference to me. To me, this is not that controversial. Bottle-feed, breastfeed, sleep with your kids, sleep separately, stay home with your kids, be a working parent: really, it all amounts to this: make whatever choices you need to for the best of the family and your kids.

Photo Credit to Denise Herrick Borchert

Seriously, this parenting gig is tough enough without having to explain your each and every choice. We need to put ourselves in a place of assuming the best of each parent, of each person. Assuming the best means that I will assume that the choices another makes are deliberate, well-thought-out, and relevant to them and their brood.

I will trust that you are doing what is best for you and yours, and meanwhile I’d really appreciate it if you trust that I am doing what’s best for me and mine.